Psychotherapy
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Personality of the therapist
I don't advocate for any particular technique or approach in psychology. The therapist's personality and commitment are more important. For me, preparing for therapy with a client involves how you lived your life the entire week leading up to the session. How engaged you are in the process.
I don't hide behind the mask of a sterile, cold therapist. I share with you my living, resonant presence.
What is much more valuable than any professional technique is that we are similar in pulse, our rough, warm, so different and so similar touches of the soul to each other, our human with you, My Human, met in the Human Other.
What influenced me as a psychotherapist
My greatest value is that I don't take anything away from the client or force them to discard anything from their personality. All parts, manifestations, and forms are explored with curiosity and respect, experienced directly during the session with me, and afterwards, imbued with their own meaning. The only thing I can deprive you of are your illusions (and only if you ask). Here, I see influences from Attachment-Based Developmental Psychology, IFS, CI, Buddhism, approaches that emphasize witnessing as the therapeutic foundation for any change, and approaches that focus on transitions.
I often use a body-oriented approach even in conversation, even online. Everything we think and feel is reflected in the body; traumas have physical traces; all parts of our personality have a bodily expression in a specific place, through a specific language and symptoms. Therefore, on the path to wholeness, the voice of the body is one of the most important.
Whatever the initial request, our path during a session at some point intersects with what can be called trauma (there are different types and levels of trauma). My understanding of trauma is a frozen state that occurs when contact is lost. In safe contact, you can "pick up" a part of yourself at the point where the freezing occurred and explore this point and yourself, so that this part, too, becomes a living, breathing, flexible part of you.
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About the session
*the session lasts one and a half hours
*can be front-end or online
*A request in the form of a problem or question never remains the same as it was at the beginning. Reformulating the question, the request, and oneself is therapy.
*The problem is always getting stuck. Getting stuck in conditions of safe and deep contact transforms into immersion. From there, transition is possible. Transition brings relief.
What does it look like?
Sometimes it feels like peeling off layers, but it's really about expanding and becoming fuller and more whole.
Sometimes it feels like entering a dark tunnel. But in reality, it's like shining a flashlight into another dark place inside yourself.
Sometimes it seems like free play, an invisible ball bouncing between us, an aimless exploration in the form of fairy tales and myths. But in reality, the tangled threads become a ball that weaves the fabric of your personality, revealing all its facets and nuances. A unique, wondrous landscape.
People often come to me to ruin their relationships, but I push them not towards loneliness, but towards Solitude and the Self.
The image is taken from the cartoon "The Girl and the Dolphin"
Psychotherapy as Through the Looking Glass
When, in a safe relationship with a psychotherapist, we discover new facets of our personality, uncover buried fragments of ourselves, and reject unnecessary meanings that are not ours, this is a wonderful process.
When the person opposite me gains insight, "crosses over," expands, as a witness to this, I get goosebumps and tears well up from the beauty of what's happening. There's something archetypally maternal about it. And for me, it's also about the beauty of life. But.
We need to test these new facets of our personality in our core relationships, with our primary attachments, with Ourselves and Others in our real lives. Psychotherapy is like in fairy tales, where you've been through the looking glass and then returned to live this life.
And here the psychotherapist has a difficult task; he needs to focus directly on bringing the client back to his attachments.
And a lot of letting go. Letting go of people, insights, changes, getting stuck. Goosebumps of pleasure. The inability to help. Responsibility for the fate of others, like the ugliness of this world and pride. Letting go and waving goodbye, hoping for another meeting.